Most relationships break not from lack of love, but from lack of repair.
We’ll untangle what keeps pulling you apart and learn how to come back to each other.
“Our first session with Ikey was already so eye-opening. She has a very rare combination of warmth and clarity. Ikey listens deeply, asks the questions that matter, and helps you get to the root of things very quickly.
Working with her has been grounding, clarifying, and genuinely transformative for our relationship.”
- T+A
Every relationship has a pattern. A rhythm. A way two people find each other and lose each other without meaning to.
We all learn how to love in the homes we grew up in: through what was modeled, what was missing, what was chaotic, what was silent.
As adults, we don’t choose partners with logic.
We choose with an inner blueprint built years before we knew we were building anything.
That blueprint shows up in your relationship:
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The way you protect yourself.
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The way you withdraw or explode.
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The way you chase or shut down.
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The way you handle disappointment.
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The way you fight, repair, or avoid.
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The way you turn toward or away.
And because these patterns feel normal, couples mistake them for personality or incompatibility.
But they’re not.
They’re old survival strategies playing out in the present.
Relationship coaching isn’t about deciding who’s “right.” It’s about understanding what each of you learned to do with closeness, and how those survival moves collide. When we slow this down, the picture becomes clear:
→ One of you may get louder, desperate for connection.
→ One of you may shut down, desperate for calm.
→ Both of you think you’re reacting to the other… but really you’re reacting to your own history.
The good news?
Once you see the pattern, you can change it.
That’s the work we do together.
If you can feel something in your relationship asking for change, let’s begin.
Book a free chemistry session, and we’ll talk through what support actually looks like.
What we can work on, together:
See the pattern beneath the fights.
We’ll slow things down so you can recognize what’s really driving the conflict. The fear, hurt, and longing underneath the reactivity, instead of circling the same argument again.
Repair in a way that actually rebuilds trust.
Every relationship has ruptures. We’ll practice repair that’s grounded in accountability, care, and understanding. The kind of repair that helps you find your way back to each other.
Make clear requests and stay open to your partner.
You’ll learn how to ask for what you need without guilt or pressure, and how to listen to what your partner needs without collapsing, arguing, or shutting off.
Hold boundaries with care and respect.
Boundaries aren’t walls. Together we’ll build limits that keep both of you safe, steady, and respectful, without resentment or withdrawal.
Build a future you’re both actually moving toward.
When things feel hard, it’s easy to forget what you’re trying to build.We’ll create a clearer vision of the relationship you want, so you’re not just fixing problems, you’re growing toward something meaningful.
Find your way back to each other.
We’ll rebuild the emotional and physical connection you’ve been missing. The kind that lets you feel like partners again, not just co-managers of a life.
"My partner and I were almost breaking up when we found Ikey. We loved each other but couldn’t stop fighting. And when we fought, we both said things that really hurt each other. With Ikey, we learned how our past was actually the one hurting our relationship. Ikey taught us how to speak from what we learned is our ‘Wise Adult.’ We still have work to do, but we finally feel closer to each other, and there’s more peace at home."
- M+S
“My wife and I were already many years in therapy, but it felt mostly like sitting in the pain, not learning how to stop hurting each other. With Ikey, it was something else. She helped us really see how much we damaged each other, but without giving us shame. She taught us to stop before it becomes too much, to react from a better place, and finally to speak about the things we put under the carpet for so long. For the first time, we didn’t only understand the problem. We could actually start changing it.”
- B.