For those who are tired of carrying the same role at work, and paying the price.
Make sense of what overwhelms you, and learn how to work without losing yourself.
“Working with Ikey as my coach was truly eye-opening and saved me from heading down a career path that wouldn't have made me happy in the long run. I'm so glad I had her guidance and truly thankful for her capability of elevating other human beings."
- Anda B.
Work shouldn’t feel like something you have to survive, but some days it does.
Between the impossible expectations, the shifting priorities, the office politics you never asked for, the Slack messages that land like mini emergencies, the gossip, the layoffs, the bosses who remind you of someone you used to fear… There are days when being a “grown-up professional” feels less like a job and more like constant emotional surveillance.
You’re alert. You’re tense. You’re waiting for something to go wrong. You give too much, absorb too much, care too much... and somehow still feel like you’re not doing enough. You hold everything together, while feeling like you’re quietly falling apart. And you can’t figure out why you’re working so hard to survive something that’s supposedly “just a job.” Work not only activates our skills, but it also activates our old instincts. Because stress makes the nervous system reach for the strategies that once kept you safe.
→ If you spent years needing to anticipate someone’s mood, you probably still scan for danger in every email.
→ If you learned to keep the peace, you might now stay quiet in meetings or soften your voice to avoid conflict.
→ If you had to be responsible for too much too soon, you likely became the one who over-functions, the person holding everything together.
→ If you grew up with unpredictability, feedback can feel like a threat rather than information.
→ If you learned that being “good” was the best way to receive love, you might still push yourself to exhaustion trying not to disappoint anyone.
→ And if you learned to survive by staying small, you might struggle to speak up, ask for what you need, or take up space.
This is the collision between a harsh work world and an inner system doing what it learned to do long before you ever had a job title.
That’s where our work comes in.
It’s not about blaming the past, or pretending the present is a “mindset.”
It’s about understanding the internal choreography that makes work feel harder than it has to be, and learning how to move differently.
We work on:
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responding instead of reacting
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setting boundaries without guilt
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speaking clearly without the spiral after
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letting go of perfection
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not absorbing everyone else’s stress
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feeling steady around authority
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making decisions from clarity instead of fear
This is not about being "tougher" or "more confident". It’s about being boundaried, steady, and connected so the world doesn’t crush you, and you don’t crush yourself trying to survive it.
If work has started to cost you more than it should, and you want to feel grounded again, let’s talk.
If work is swallowing your life, start here.
A reset for people who feel overwhelmed at work.
This free 5-part email series will help you untangle overwhelm, set better boundaries, and trust yourself more at work, without adding to your to-do list.
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Why you’re overwhelmed even when nothing “big” is happening.
Learn what your stress is really trying to tell you, and how to respond without burning out. -
How to protect your energy without losing relationships.
Simple ways to say no, stop over-functioning, and stop carrying emotional weight that isn’t yours. -
Why certain people at work trigger you instantly.
Understand the “am I in trouble?” feeling and how to step out of fear around authority. -
How to stop spiraling after meetings, feedback, or conflict.
Learn what self-doubt really means, and why feeling uncomfortable can actually be a sign of growth. -
How to move forward with clarity instead of fear.
Practical tools to make decisions, trust yourself, and create a work life that doesn’t run your nervous system.
The Work We’ll Do, Together
Untangle the roles you keep slipping into at work.
We uncover the automatic roles and help you step out of them so you can show up as your grounded adult self.
Steady your reactions so work doesn’t run your nervous system.
We slow down the panic, the shutdown, or the shame spiral and help you respond with clarity, whether you’re navigating conflict, feedback, or a major career decision.
Build boundaries that protect your time, energy, and life outside of work.
Not walls, not people-pleasing, but real boundaries that let you speak honestly, say no without guilt, and create space for the rest of your life to exist.
Make career decisions from clarity instead of fear or pressure.
You learn to choose roles, pursue growth, manage transitions, and move forward confidently, without overworking, overthinking, or burning yourself out.
“When Ikey first joined, we were a tiny company with fewer than a dozen employees. It was time to grow and scale, and Ikey single-handedly hired and trained dozens of people, organized how we run our meetings and tracked goals, designed the entire structure of our organization, was an integral part of building our company culture, and helped us to become a mission-driven company. We now have a global team of more than 100 people who change lives every day."
- Daniel Rosen, CEO
Why this work is different
Before becoming a coach, I spent 16+ years inside the tech world building teams, shaping cultures, leading through chaos, and trying (not always successfully) to create workplaces where people could actually thrive.
I’ve built departments from the ground up, led global remote teams, mentored managers, implemented systems during rapid growth, and sat inside the rooms where decisions were made (the inspiring ones and the deeply flawed ones).
I’ve seen the backstage of modern work: The pressure, the politics, the brilliance, the fear, the burnout, the ambition, the loneliness, and the very human mess of it all.
Alongside that, I’ve trained deeply as a coach, with over 400 hours of certification and more than 1,500 hours of one-on-one work helping people navigate their emotional landscape at work and in life.
My work blends both worlds:
The psychological truth of why we react the way we do
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The practical reality of high-pressure work environments.
I’m not here to "optimize your productivity."
I’m here to help you build a work life you can actually live inside.