Caught between who you had to be and who you really are?
Life coaching for deep thinkers who are ready to find their true voice, reclaim their identity, and thrive.
Dear Deep Thinker,
Maybe you've always been the strong one.
The mature one (because you had to be).
The one who holds it all together when things fall apart.
But somewhere along the way, you lost touch with what you need.
I work with people who’ve been told they’re too much and not enough, often in the same breath.
People who’ve learned to be the caregivers, the calm ones, the protectors, but never quite learned how to be held themselves.
Does that sound like you?
Partnering with me is about finding your way back to yourself.
Not by pushing it all away or pretending it’s fine, but by learning how to care for the parts of you that have been carrying too much, for too long.
By untangling the old patterns that kept you safe, but now keep you stuck.
And by building a life that feels like yours, not someone else’s idea of who you should be.
Together, we’ll explore the patterns that still shape how you show up.
We’ll make space for the parts of you that got missed.
And we’ll build the tools and self-trust to move forward from your wise adult, not your survival mode.
Ready to get started? Book a chemistry session.
“When I first started working with Ikey, I couldn’t even tell you what I was feeling. Everything was a mess and I thought if I just worked harder or explained myself better, it would somehow get better. But of course it didn't. Ikey showed me how to listen to what I've been shutting off for years. The result is better relationships with my family, friends, girlfriend and...myself."
- Manuel. M.
The Work We’ll Do, Together
Reclaiming Your Identity
Reconnect with the parts of yourself you’ve had to hide, shrink, or abandon. Build a life that feels like yours again.
Breaking Free from Old Patterns
Recognize the ways you’ve been keeping yourself small, stuck, or silent, and learn how to choose something different.
Unlearning Roles You Didn’t Choose
Step out of the caretaker, peacekeeper, or overachiever roles your family or past taught you to play, and discover who you are underneath them.
Practicing Real Self-Compassion
Learn how to treat yourself with the same kindness and honesty you offer others, especially when you mess up or feel lost.
Trusting Yourself & Making Decisions
Quiet the noise of other people’s expectations and build the kind of self-trust that helps you make choices from a place of clarity.
Creating Healthy Boundaries
Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re the space where you can protect your well-being and stay connected to the people who matter.
Setting Limits & Saying No
Learn how to say no without guilt, set limits that protect your energy, and stop over-giving just to keep the peace.
Building Healthy, Meaningful Relationships
Create deeper, more honest relationships with yourself and others, not from fixing or pleasing, but from real connection.
Developing Emotional Resilience
Learn how to stay steady when life feels overwhelming. Not by being perfect, but by being present.
Living with More Meaning & Joy
Reconnect with what brings you alive and create space for joy, purpose, and rest, not just survival.
What I Bring to Our Sessions
I’m a certified ICF coach with over 1,000 hours of client work.
I’m fully trained in:
— Relational Life Therapy (RLT by Terry Real), for transforming relational patterns with directness and care
— Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), for building a values-based life, even in the face of uncertainty
I also use parts & inner child work, and experiential mindfulness practices, that are the foundation for my work.
I’m not here as an expert on your life.
I’m a fellow traveler. I’ve walked through my own healing, growing up in complicated family systems, learning how to survive and thrive without losing my softness.
And I’ve spent years supporting others who are doing the same: thoughtful, sensitive, capable people who’ve carried too much for too long.
In our sessions, you won’t have to perform. You don’t have to be anything but what you are.
We’ll look at the patterns you’ve been stuck in, sometimes gently, sometimes directly, learn how to start choosing something different.
Because at the end of the day, this work isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about helping you see that you were never broken.
"I came to Ikey during a terrible breakup, which would have crushed me before. But thanks to Ikey I could actually take care of myself. I didn’t know I had that in me."
- Caroline. J.